Whenever Kevin leaves town for a good amount of time, I try to plan outings with my friends. Dealing with all that we have in the past 2 1/2 years I often pull away from them, especially the friends with kids. It's hard if I'm on fertility drugs, or waiting to hear if a cycle worked or not. I just can't go out and have a cocktail or hang out at a bar. And driving to the suburbs too see their cute families snug in their white picket fenced homes, is a little less than desirable. But I love my friends, and I love our friendships, so I must step up to the plate and put my own feelings aside. Since Kevin has been in Dubai for the past week and not coming back until Wednesday, it was time for me to do exactly that.
On Thursday I met my 2 best friends out for sushi at a new trendy restaurant downtown. We completely lost track of time and before we knew it, we had been there for 3 hours! It was great as we all spent literally about an hour talking about what is going on in our lives...and it's interesting because we are all at different stages. One friend is pregnant (first try, and she was having marital problems right before she got pregnant...I've made peace with it and am SO happy for), (oh, she's moving a couple of blocks from us, and don't think I don't plan to be there every day after work to hold that preciousness). My other friend is not married, and dating a man who has commitment issues, making her a little neurotic. And, well, if you are a regular reader of this blog, you know what I contributed to the conversation. It's a friendship I treasure greatly, and am so thankful to have them in my life.
Today I am heading to do some shopping with my mom. Whenever Kevin is away, my parents make ME hang out with them. It's really cute that I am 32 and they are still watching out for me. My dad even called yesterday to see if he could meet us for lunch.
Tomorrow I am getting up early to work out with my oldest friends (since 4th grade). My friend has some free passes at a swanky gym downtown, and then we are heading out to the suburbs to have brunch with the suburban constituent of these friends. During college and the years proceeding, we all kind of went our different directions, but somehow we all came back together. We get together about once a month for brunch, dinner, or board game playing and I'm amazed that I am still with these girls.
When Kevin's gone, it's a time to reconnect with others in my life. It's a time to recharge not only my batteries, but my relationships as well. I know I'm not always the best friend that I can be, but all of these people in my life won't let me go. If it weren't for them, all of them, and their unique personalities and traits, I might not have come out from my dark place, or may have completely lost my mind. But then again, who wants to miss sushi, shopping and brunch?
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That's a sign of a true friend and glad you have many in your life. No matter what you are going through, they will not let you do it alone and they understand you. That is wonderful! Have a great time!
ReplyDeletethat is a great idea! I am glad you have friends that have been through everything with you! I kinda ditched out on my friends too with IF crap, and other stuff too, but it feels good to reunite with some of them! I hope you have a freakin awesome time with all of them :)
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